It’s Almost Here

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The countdown is on. How are you doing? Are all the gifts purchased and wrapped?All the baking done? Any parties to plan or attend?

I don’t have to tell you that the litany of holiday activities and “to-do’s” is seemingly endless. And the pressure! Ever arrived for an event and realized you didn’t remember a gift for Uncle Bob or Aunt Sally? Is that the worst feeling, or what?

I watched the show “Black-ish” recently and was struck by the story line regarding the pressure we put upon ourselves–and sometimes the pressure others put on us–to make every holiday better than the year before. It is a tall order for many of us, but we continue to try.

All of this activity can be stressful, needless to say. That is why I am offering a FREE webinar Tuesday, December 15th at 7:00 p.m. EST. Here are the benefits of my program:

  • You will learn what stress is. The fact is that “stress” means different things to different people. What stresses me out might not even register on your radar. What stresses you out might be something I deal with every day. Stress is different for each of us, but…
  • Stress has a definite effect upon each of us physically, mentally, and emotionally. I will help you understand what stress is and how it might be impacting you negatively and you aren’t even aware of it.
  • You will also learn how to recognize the stressors in your life, and
  • You will learn why it is important for you to understand stress to be…and stay…healthy and well.
  • Finally, you will learn 7 specific strategies that won’t cost you anything but might save your life. These 7 strategies are simple (if not always easy) and can impact your general sense of wellness and well-being.

So, what do you think? Is it going to be worth an hour of your time to check it out? If so, I hope you will register here.

I hope to see you there.

Until next time.

You Are Invited to a Special Online Event

You Are Invited to a Special Online Event

Holiday Gifts

Holiday Gifts

We have all heard the song about the holidays being the “happiest time of the year,” right? But this holiday season has already been overshadowed with tragedies and terrorism from Paris to Beirut to San Bernadino. The airwaves are filled with rancor and vitriol and personal attacks instead of messages of “peace on earth and goodwill toward men.”

On top of what is happening globally, the holidays are fraught with other kinds of stress. We tend to overeat, over-drink, and overspend. We fret over whether we have gotten just the right gift for everyone on the list. There are parties to attend and host, there are end-of-year tasks to deal with at work, and last minute details often forgotten until, well, the last minute.

It all makes for a stress-filled time of year even though there are good times to be enjoyed.

I am reminded that it was ten years ago this Christmas that I left my home and started divorce proceedings. In fact, many of my moves have been over the holidays to accommodate my teacher schedule.

This year will be my first Christmas without my mom, and my 29th year without my dad. And my 7-year-old car has decided that it is time for some major repair work…ouch.

Let’s face it, in spite of the fact that this is supposed to be a happy time, sometimes it just isn’t.

In case you are feeling overwhelmed with everything on your to-do list, I want to invite you to join me for a FREE LIVE webinar that I will be hosting next week. The date is December 15, 2015. The time is 7:00 EST. The registration link is here.

I hope you will sign up and plan to join me and others who will be exploring how we can take better care of ourselves during this stress-filled season so that we really can enjoy ourselves and be happier and more ready for the new year.

So sign up now, and join me.

How to Manage Your Holiday Stress

Holiday Stress - Photo by Shutterstock

Holiday Stress

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The holiday season is supposed to be the “happiest time of year.” At least that is the message that we hear in the songs, holiday specials, and all of the other messages–both overt and subliminal–to which we are subjected during the weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas. (And let’s face it…the holiday hype now begins long before Thanksgiving.)

The fact is, however, that for many people, this isn’t the happiest time of year. Moreover, it is a time when stress levels just ratchet up and up and up. There are pressures to spend more money…sometimes money we don’t have…so the credit cards get a work out with only passing thought to how they will get paid in the new year.

There are also pressures to eat things that we know aren’t good for us; but they go with the season, right? The standard Christmas gathering isn’t complete without fudge and Christmas cookies of every shape and description. Many of us just resign ourselves to gaining 5 or 10 pounds during this time of year…again, with little thought as to how that will make us feel as we hit the new year.

And then, there are the family get togethers and relationship pressures that we all face. Getting together with certain family members that we would rather not see, but they are, well…family. You have to deal with their intrusive questions that are supposed to show that they care but really make you feel like shouting, “It’s none of your business!”

All of these pressures add up, and instead of feeling happy, many of us just feel isolated, depressed, and dejected. For strategies for managing stress during the holiday season, go here for a “cheat sheet” on how to manage and reduce your stress as well as building natural resilience so that you feel less stress even when you are experiencing stressful situations. Continue reading

Happy Veteran’s Day

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Photo from Shutterstock

Today is Veteran’s Day. It is a day when we honor the heroes both past and present who have offered the ultimate sacrifice for love of country.

I grew up in a household where pacifism was promoted by our church. My father was a conscientious objector during World War II as were his brothers and most of the young men in his church community. They all did alternative service of some sort which means they served…they just didn’t take up arms or go into battle.

I believe that being a conscientious objector was a decision that my father struggled with over the course of his life. I heard him at different times wonder out loud if he had made the right decision. Knowing him as the peace loving man that he was, I believe he did make the right decision for him, but at the same time, all of my uncles on my mother’s side of our family served in the armed forces. One was in the Navy, one joined the Army, another signed up with the Air Force and yet the fourth became a Marine.

We live in a world where we need to have individuals–men and women–who are willing to join the service in order to protect our country from its enemies. I am grateful to each and every one. We have a problem, however, in that we often neglect our veterans once they get home. We pay lip service, certainly, and we offer our thanks on special days like today, but too many of them are suffering from PTSD and not getting the help they need. Too many of them are coming home missing limbs or with serious brain injuries from which there is no real recovery.

I accept on a practical level that we need our Armed Services. We sometimes need to protect ourselves and we need to stamp out to the extent that we can the aggression of those who are simply dictators. Those individuals must be stopped. Having said that, I want to make sure that we acknowledge as a country that merely paying lip service to those who have given up everything for the opportunity to serve their country isn’t enough. We need to provide the support and services that they need when they return for as long as it takes to help them get back to a “regular” life.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my own gratitude to those who have served. Our country could not continue to be the free democracy that it is without your dedication, your commitment to the ideal and your service on the ground. Thank you. And Happy Veteran’s Day.